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And A Little Child Shall Lead Them – Peacemakers 2019

On 12 July 2019, our Training and Development Advisor, Professor Joel Lee, published a blog post on the Kluwer Mediation Blog entitled “And A Little Child Shall Lead Them – Peacemakers Conference 2019”. His blog post is reproduced in full below.


I have in previous entries (July 2012 and July 2013) written about a peer mediation initiative called the Peacemakers Conference. The purpose of the Peacemakers Conference is to teach 13-16 year olds how to resolve conflicts amicably in a workshop cum competition format. This year’s Peacemakers Conference was held from 17 to 19 July 2019.
 
As in previous years, we asked students from different schools to work together to create a visual metaphor for mediation. This started in 2015 and has become a regular feature in the Peacemakers Conference. Metaphors from previous years be found in the entries for November 2015August 2016July 2017 and July 2018.

This year, the students came up with 7 visual metaphors which I would like to share with readers in this entry. For each of these, images or videos of the metaphor are shared along with a description of the metaphor.

I would like to acknowledge the efforts of Mr. Sean Lim and the Peacemakers Facilitation team for capturing the the description and images of each of the metaphors that appear below.


1. Mediation is like a Wire

Mediation is like a wire; it connects the handphone to the portable charger. In the case of mediation, when the two parties come together, the mediation session helps them to connect with each other, so that they can find a solution that is agreeable to the both of them. It helps the two parties to work together and cooperatively to reach a certain desired outcome. Just like mediation, a wire connects two appliances together. In mediation, the parties bring two opposing points of view and what they want is very different. This is similar to a phone and portable charger. They are very different things and they serve different purposes. The wire helps them both to achieve their purposes.


2. Mediation is a Flying Cow

Is it a bird? Is it a plane?

NO, it’s a FLYING COW!

Indeed, mediation is a like a flying cow. You might be thinking, holy cow! What a strange metaphor. How is a flying cow related to mediation? Well, the two actually have more in common than you think, especially whenever two parties have beef with each other.

Firstly, a flying cow represents the 3 core pillars of mediation: neutrality, confidentiality, and party autonomy.

Neutrality: The cow is not biased towards any farmer, as long as it is well fed and taken care of, which represents how mediators are not biased towards any party and are an impartial third party. Their hooves are split into 2 equal parts, and their weight is distributed equally on both of these, which shows how the cow is even and fair.

Confidentiality: Have you ever heard a cow talk? Neither have we. This ensures the contents are always secret and private, maintaining confidentiality: everything that goes into the cow, will stay in the cow, just like what is said in the mediation will stay in the mediation.

Party Autonomy: With wings, the cow also has the freedom to fly wherever it wants and these allow it to choose and commit to a destination. Also, the wings can allow it to fly and look at the situation from different perspectives and find a solution. Similarly, parties voluntarily generate their solution which they have ownership of. This represents party autonomy!

Secondly, the cow also represents the mediation process itself as it has four stomachs. When the cow eats, it first chews the food just enough to swallow. The partly chewed food travels to the first two stomachs, where it is stored. These first two stomachs represent the first two steps in the mediation process, opening and information gathering+checking as all the food has not been digested yet, just like how the information still needs to be processed and reframed by a mediator (which are like enzymes in the stomach). Here, the information is still being broken down, and parties may face conflicts or misunderstandings, similar to how cows may face indigestion.

When the cow is full from this eating process, it rests. This is akin to how sometimes, parties may get physically or emotionally tired from the long processes and mediations and may need a break after passionately conveying their feelings. Later, the cow coughs up bits of unchewed food and chews them completely before swallowing again. The food then goes through the third and fourth stomachs, where it is fully digested. This is just like how all of the secrets, which are represented by the unchewed food of the cow, will need to be brought up and broken down further into their underlying problems and interests in order to continue on with a successful mediation. Since cows chew and digest their food very thoroughly, it represents the skill and depth with which a mediator must understand the issue at hand so as to guide the parties to a realistic solution. Finally after all the information has been uncovered and a solution has been found, the mediation can be closed, similar to the fully digested food in a cow’s fourth stomach.

As the food passes through the cow’s four stomachs, only the nutrients from food will be absorbed, while harmful and irrelevant substances will be excreted as… bullshit. This is parallel to mediation; what remains is only positive and valuable information, while the negative and irrelevant sentiments are discarded or reframed during the process, so both parties can mOOve on a happier note.

Lastly, cows are known for their milk. Milking a cow is hard work but no doubt worth it because the milk obtained is really precious. After thinking hard, the 2 parties will be satisfied with the milk of their labours and the mediator is rewarded with the satisfaction of mending a strained relationship. Cows may face stress if they are separated from their herd, or have a change in environment. This is similar to how mediation can sometimes be stressful, because of the high steaks situation, but these feelings get better eventually, just like a calm cow.


3. Mediation is a Life Form

It is the only reason why nature is alive. The reason why we have the environment around us. Why animals have emotions. Why animals live, grow and die. Life form is the only thing that divides the world of living and the dead.

The reason we chose the metaphor of the heart is because all living things have a heart, visible or not. Like a shell, the heart is not alive. The veins that represents life form. They are the reason why the heart is alive.

Just like the deoxygenated blood enters the heart through the veins, mediations first starts off as a conflict entering mediation. Just like how we need to get rid of the deoxygenated blood, we come in into a mediation with conflicts that we hope to resolve.

And the blood exits filled with oxygen – just like in a mediation, where the parties come out with a solution and certainly feeling better.

The heart is necessary to keep all creatures alive, just like mediation is important to sustain relationships and solve problems. The feelings we feel from our hearts are just like a mediation is filled with the emotions of parties.

Emotions may cause arguments, but it could also cause an argument to be resolved. Being alive. Being in this world. Allows you to think, sympathise and empathise with the other which are the reasons why arguments are resolved.

But being alive. But being in this world. You will have different perspectives which lead to arguments. Positivity and negativity do exist within us, and they are what makes us who we are.

This is why we chose life forms in a form of a heart. We chose 3 different hearts and as you swipe you can see how a negative situation can be turned into positive situation through mediation. As the colours slowly seep through the veins it shows the progression of how things surely will get better after a mediation.

Life forms. Being alive. We will be the reason why fights happen but mediation shows us how people can also resolve their fight together. Because mediation is bringing in dark problems but coming out with bright possibilities.


4. Mediation is a Microscope

Mediation is like a microscope 🔬.

The more 🔍zoom in🔎, the bigger the picture gets. The more you focus, you clearer you see 👀.

Whenever you use a microscope, the first thing you have to do is prepare your specimen. Similarly in mediation, you have to ensure that both parties are clear about the mediation session so that they can be prepared to cooperate.

Next, you have to examine your slide. When you look through the microscope, it is similar to how a mediator listens carefully to the parties’ opening statements and hears what they are saying, in order to see the big picture and understand the issues. The microscope also has different lenses to allow the viewer to see different things. The more you look, the clearer it is.

The mediator should also choose an objective lens, by being clear about what objectives the parties want to achieve after the session.

The microscope also requires a light in order to allow you to see clearly. Similarly, although parties may not always understand each other, the mediator sheds light on the issues to help them understand each other better.

In order for the light to reach the specimen, you also need a condenser, which is similar to the mediator’s function of summarizing. When you zoom in, sometimes what you see is not clear. In order to get the clear picture, you need to focus on asking open-ended questions, such as the 5W and 1H.

Finally, the last step is problem-solving. Once the mediator has identified the underlying problem, the mediator can help the parties problem-solve, giving them the autonomy to suggest solutions.


5. Mediation is a Lighthouse


When two ships 🚢 are lost at sea and are battling the rocky waves 🌊, lacking any light 💡 to guide them, they drift further and further away from their destination – the shore 🏝


This is similar to how without mediation, two opposing parties will be battling their unresolved issues (rocky waves 🌊) and will find it hard to resolve their problems, and will end up simply causing further misunderstandings and get worse. ☹️

Moreover, in the darkness 🌘, the ships may crash into each other and cause damage to each other, and themselves.


Similarly, without mediation, actions by both parties may result in hurt on both ends 😔, causing harm to their relationship 😰


Therefore, mediation is a lighthouse, because just as how a lighthouse guides ships 🚢 lost at sea who are at risk of being damaged due to the harsh waves and rocks, mediation helps two parties SEA clearly, water-ver the problem.


Mediation allows you to brave the harsh waves of conflict against all odds and eventually come to an agreement ❤️✨ just like a lighthouse shines light on the solution! (water!) 💦💦


6. Mediation is like Braces


The reason as we think mediation is just like braces is because braces bring teeth closer together, just like how mediation brings people closer together. The gaps between the teeth are just like the gaps between the relationship of the two parties, which is brought closer together by braces/mediation.

The pain that comes in the process of having braces is just like the pain of disputes between the parties. It might seem tough, but eventually, after the pain, the outcome is a beautifully straight row of teeth, just like how the relationship of the parties are made to be beautiful.

The retainers that come after braces ensure that the teeth don’t become crooked again, just like how the parties will keep to their solution and carry it out!


7. Mediation is like a Rainbow

Mediation is like a rainbow, which connects both the sun and the rain cloud. The sun and cloud are very different, they are basically nature’s polar opposites. On their own, they represent each extreme – the sun is very hot, while the cloud is very rainy.

But somehow, the rainbow manages to connect both and the two can form the fruitful conclusion of a pretty rainbow.

Neutrality. The sun does not care about what kind of clouds there are, big or small. Neither do the clouds care what kind of sunlight shines upon them. Either way, a rainbow will still be formed. When the sun and rainbow meet, it signifies that no matter the conflict is, it is possible for the mediator to step in and resolve the conflict.

Party autonomy. The rainbow forms only because the sun and the rain come together as one, and not due to any other reason. This signifies how both disputing parties have ownership of the situation and come together to solve the problem on their own.

Confidentiality. When a rainbow forms, it is actually because the light reflects off the water droplets in the air, but the process is not very obvious and cannot be seen. Therefore, this shows how the process of mediation will be kept confidential.
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That brings us to the end of another installment of visual metaphors for mediation! I hope readers found some of these as inspiring as we did!



For more pictures and videos of the Peacemakers Conference 2019, please visit the Peacemakers Facebook Page.

As Singapore’s leading peer mediation experts, Peacemakers has an extensive track record of managing and delivering conflict resolution training for youth at both local and international levels. If you would like to train your youth to better manage conflict, let us know how we can help via email at mediate@peacemakers.sg.

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Peacemakers Conference 2019 – Report

By Daniel Foo on behalf of the organisers of the Conference

This year’s iteration of the Peacemakers Conference marked the event’s 10th anniversary – a worthy cause for celebration! Taking place from 17 to 19 June 2019, the Conference sought to teach 13 to 16 year olds how to resolve conflicts amicably in a workshop cum competition format.

This year, we were delighted to host participants from Commonwealth Secondary School, Evergreen Secondary School, Raffles Girls’ School, Hougang Secondary School, Jurong West Secondary School, St. Margaret’s Secondary School and Yishun Town Secondary School.


Learning about Mediation as a Mode of Peacemaking

Over the course of the Conference, the participants were exposed to mediation as a mode of amicable conflict management. Our lead trainers, Mr Mark Lim and Ms Madeleine Poh, trained them in the foundational principles of mediation, the process of peer mediation and elements of collaborative problem solving. Our trainers also focused on the skills involved in managing emotions, active listening and reframing. By the end of the workshops, the participants exhibited a keen understanding of what interests were, and how they were important for parties in conflict to generate sustainable options for resolving their disputes.

Just like in previous years, the participants spent the last afternoon of the Conference on a field trip to the Supreme Court of Singapore. They learned about the history of Singapore’s judiciary and legal system at the Supreme Court Heritage Gallery and had an interactive experience learning about court proceedings from the perspective of different persons involved in a court proceeding at the Learning Court.


Practising Mediation in Everyday Peacemaking

The participants got to put what they learned into practice through a series of role play scenarios. Over the course of the Conference, they were given hypothetical disputes that could reasonably occur between students in secondary school, and took turns to role play as parties and mediators in these disputes. This was a chance for them not only to exhibit their hidden acting ability, but also to practise their newly acquired mediation skills – including asking questions, managing emotions and encouraging brainstorming for solutions to problems.

After four gruelling rounds of competition, two teams emerged as the highest scoring participants: St. Margaret’s Secondary School and Raffles Girls’ School. The two teams competed in a final round at the NUS Law Bukit Timah Campus, where Ankita Alevoor Bhat (RGS), Tay Ee Shuen Megan (RGS), Annika Naomi Ee Rui En (SMSS) and Bathar Nisha Barvin (SMSS) mediated a dramatic and emotionally-charged hypothetical dispute. The finals were judged by CEO of Strategic Moves Pte Ltd, Mr Viswa Sadasivan; Deputy Executive Director of the Singapore Mediation Centre, Ms Sabiha Shiraz; and CEO of Sage, Mr Aloysius Goh.

Both teams put up remarkable performances – showcasing in particular their ability to ask effective questions. The judges commended both teams for their ability to stay neutral and refrain from suggesting options. The judges also raised the importance of ensuring that both parties feel safe to discuss freely in the negotiation, and that they reach a settlement that both are comfortable with. In the end, the team from RGS was awarded champion for their impressive ability to stay calm and ask effective questions quickly yet sensitively. Besides the prizes sponsored by Singapore Mediation Centre and Singapore International Mediation Institute, both finalists were awarded finely crafted ORIENT watches, kindly sponsored by BIG Time SG.

Additionally, five participants were recognised for their overall attitude and performance throughout the Conference: Hoo Ping Zhi from Yishun Town Secondary School, Malabanan Ace Brendan Malones from Hougang Secondary School, Koya Kavyanjali Sai from Jurong West Secondary School, Wong Ke Ning Clarisse from Commonwealth Secondary School and Ooi Jia Xi from Evergreen Secondary School.


Promoting Mediation as a… Flying Cow… with Braces?

Participants also got the opportunity to get their creative juices by inventing visual metaphors for what mediation is to them. This year saw what could be the most creative submissions. Participants likened mediation to a wire, a microscope, a lighthouse, a rainbow, and even a life form.

After each group’s presentation on their metaphors, it was decided that the top two metaphors were “Mediation is like Braces” and – probably the most imaginative metaphor to have ever featured in the history of the Peacemakers Conference – “Mediation is like a Flying Cow”. They explained that mediation is like braces because the process can be painful, but it can also bring parties closer and more aligned with each other. Mediation is also like a flying cow – with each of its four stomachs representing each stage of the mediation process. The cow’s behavioural features also symbolise the principles of mediation, while its wings represent the possibility of reaching a solution.


Concluding Words

The organisers would like to express their heartfelt gratitude to the many people that made the Peacemakers Conference 2019 such a great success. First and foremost, we would like to thank the Singapore International Mediation Institute, the Singapore Mediation Centre, the Community Mediation Centre, the NUS Collaborative Dispute Resolution Club, and BIG Time SG for supporting the Conference. Without them, the Conference would not have been the success that it was.

We would also like to thank all the judges who volunteered their precious time to invest in the participants’ mediation training. The judges’ dedication, patience, and wisdom are greatly appreciated, both by the organisers as well as the participants.

Next, we would like to express our special thanks to St. Margaret’s Secondary School for graciously hosting the Conference, and especially to Mrs Foo Kar Hiang for her help with coordinating the event. We would like to thank the National University of Singapore’s Faculty of Law for hosting the finals. We would also like to thank all the trainers and facilitators, who worked tirelessly to ensure the smooth running of the Conference.

Finally, we would like to thank the participants for their enthusiasm and willingness to learn. They have impressed us with their ability, creativity and potential to be peacemakers in their respective spheres of influence. As the Managing Director of Peacemakers, Mr Sean Lim, said in his closing remarks: our world is filled with strife, and sometimes it can seem overwhelming. But if we can just make a difference where we are – to our families, our friends and our communities – we are already making a step in the right direction.



For more pictures and videos of the Peacemakers Conference 2019, please visit the Peacemakers Facebook Page.

As Singapore’s leading peer mediation experts, Peacemakers has an extensive track record of managing and delivering conflict resolution training for youth at both local and international levels. If you would like to train your youth to better manage conflict, let us know how we can help via email at mediate@peacemakers.sg.

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Peace Talks – Insyirah Isham

In our interview series, entitled “Peace Talks”, we speak to peacemakers with different backgrounds and life stories, and ask them to share their thoughts and reflections. 

This edition of “Peace Talks” features Insyirah Isham from Jurong West Secondary School:

 

Q: How was your overall experience at the Peacemakers Conference 2018?

My overall experience at the Peacemakers Conference 2018 was that it was one of the best Conferences that I’ve ever attended. They taught me different methods to cope with different types of issues, and also taught me how to handle different types of people coming in for mediation sessions (some can be angry, sad or even quiet). Their way of teaching was easy to understand and fun at the same time! All of this wouldn’t have happened without the help of the amazing, engaging, and lively facilitators who guided us from the start till the end.

 

Q: What was the most unforgettable part of the Conference for you?

One of the most unforgettable moments was when my school managed to clinch the position of Best Mediators of the Peacemaker Conference (Competition) 2018! We didn’t expect to win as other schools were better in the way they presented themselves confidently. It was definitely shocking to hear that we won as this was our first time participating in the Peacemakers Conference.

 

Q: What is an example of you applying what you learned in the Conference in real life?

I’ve applied the skills that I’ve learnt in various events such as in class, amongst my batch mates, my families, and even my close friends. Without any hesitation, some even came back for more mediation as they found it very calming, effective, and convenient! With the skills that I’ve learnt, I managed to ensure that all my friends, family members, and even schoolmates were not worried about information being leaked etc. This has helped make the school environment much brighter as there is now less tension between us.

 

Q: If you could give one piece of advice to the incoming participants of the Peacemakers Conference 2019, what would you tell them?

One of the many pieces of advice that I could give to others is to always look up and never give up after every round of mediation competition round. The competition is made to be challenging after each round but other than being nerve-wrecking, it will also spark joy in your heart after the parties have resolved their issues because of your help. Always take down notes of the judges comments and use it to improve from the next round onwards. Good Luck!

 


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For more pictures and videos of the Peacemakers Conference 2018, please visit the Peacemakers Facebook Page.

As Singapore’s leading peer mediation experts, Peacemakers has an extensive track record of managing and delivering conflict resolution training for youth at both local and international levels. If you would like to train your youth to better manage conflict, let us know how we can help via email at mediate@peacemakers.sg.

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Peace Talks – Eunice Ho

In our interview series, entitled “Peace Talks”, we speak to peacemakers with different backgrounds and life stories, and ask them to share their thoughts and reflections. 

This edition of “Peace Talks” features Eunice Ho from Holy Innocents’ High School:

 

Q: How was your overall experience at the Peacemakers Conference 2018?

My overall experience at Peacemakers was enriching. I wasn’t expecting to learn much but I was wrong. Going to Peacemakers Conference 2018 taught me what mediation is. The facilitators shared their experiences and brought us through the process of mediation. The students from other schools were very approachable too and I’m thankful to have met all these people 🙂

 

Q: What was the most unforgettable part of the Conference for you?

The most unforgettable part would be the mediation sessions! The sessions were very interesting because everyone was given a chance to be both a mediator and a party. It was truly an eye-opening experience and I will never forget how enthusiastic and fierce the parties were haha!

 

Q: What is an example of you applying what you learned in the Conference in real life?

When my friends were faced with conflicting issues, they decided to talk it out and I became their mediator. I applied what I learnt from the Conference by asking how both parties felt and led them to talk it out on their own. There were some misunderstandings and I asked both parties to come to a conclusion that both of them could agree on. In the end, they managed to talk it out and became friends again after the “mediation session”. Yay!

 

Q: If you could give one piece of advice to the incoming participants of the Peacemakers Conference 2019, what would you tell them?

It’ll be a fun and fulfilling journey! Go with a mindset of learning new things and you will leave with knowledge that can be used in the future. Remember to have fun and make new friends! It may seem boring but going to the Conference will prove you wrong, I am confident that most of you will enjoy Peacemakers Conference 2019!

 


Like what you see here? Sign up for the Peacemakers Conference 2019 today!

For more pictures and videos of the Peacemakers Conference 2018, please visit the Peacemakers Facebook Page.

As Singapore’s leading peer mediation experts, Peacemakers has an extensive track record of managing and delivering conflict resolution training for youth at both local and international levels. If you would like to train your youth to better manage conflict, let us know how we can help via email at mediate@peacemakers.sg.

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Peace Talks – Sudheer Kumar Girish

In our interview series, entitled “Peace Talks”, we speak to peacemakers with different backgrounds and life stories, and ask them to share their thoughts and reflections. 

This edition of “Peace Talks” features Sudheer Kumar Girish from Commonwealth Secondary School:

 

Q: How was your overall experience at the Peacemakers Conference 2018?

It was an enjoyable and enriching experience in which I managed to learn a lot more about mediation and become a better mediator in general, also with a great company of people! Although there was this prevailing atmosphere of tension and fear that probably lurked in every other participant’s minds due to competitive nature of the Conference, the hospitality offered by the facilitators managed to make a gradual transition from that to a Conference that was exciting and fun rather quickly!

 

Q: What was the most unforgettable part of the Conference for you?

The most unforgettable part would be the various discussions we managed to have within pockets of friends that weren’t limited to our school. The Conference was an opportunity to meet students from different schools and backgrounds, rooted with the same interest to encourage peacekeeping within our own friends. The discussions and outing within those groups itself during the Conference only served to strengthen the bonds we forged. It’s an unforgettable experience, to be put in that kind of environment where we have people with a common, shared interest and really relate to one another whilst having fun and learning.

 

Q: What is an example of you applying what you learned in the Conference in real life?

As a mediator, I’ve managed to pick up language which entails empathy. Through the various problems and situations presented, as well as the true simulation of the actual conflict as the core part of the competition, I’ve acclimatised myself to handling conflicts, and learnt to empathise in-depth with others, while paying close attention to their word choice. Through the conference, a major skill I’ve picked up was the ability to empathise with others to a deep degree. Although there was no direct conflict between two parties that I had experienced after Conference, as a friend, I’ve managed to empathise with my friends better and comfort them better in times of difficulty. I am deeply grateful for the Conference that managed to equip me with such pertinent skills.

 

Q: If you could give one piece of advice to the incoming participants of the Peacemakers Conference 2019, what would you tell them?

Don’t let Peacemakers Conference be a competition –– it’s a lovely experience that nurtures you!! Let it be an avenue to develop your passion in mediating and problem-solving 😀 Stay confident and trust yourself enough to help others with the skills that you’ve picked up during the Conference!

 


Like what you see here? Sign up for the Peacemakers Conference 2019 today!

For more pictures and videos of the Peacemakers Conference 2018, please visit the Peacemakers Facebook Page.

As Singapore’s leading peer mediation experts, Peacemakers has an extensive track record of managing and delivering conflict resolution training for youth at both local and international levels. If you would like to train your youth to better manage conflict, let us know how we can help via email at mediate@peacemakers.sg.

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Peace Talks – Tan Jo Shin

In our interview series, entitled “Peace Talks”, we speak to peacemakers with different backgrounds and life stories, and ask them to share their thoughts and reflections. 

This edition of “Peace Talks” features Tan Jo Shin from NUS High School of Mathematics and Science:

 

Q: How was your overall experience at the Peacemakers Conference 2018?

All in all, I had a really good time at the Peacemakers Conference 2018 because of the extremely helpful team of people from Peacemakers! They really helped to make my Peacemakers experience a lot more fun and engaging, and I have definitely learnt a lot more behind the process of formal peacemaking.

 

Q: What was the most unforgettable part of the Conference for you?

For me, being able to undergo the process of mediation itself was a very fresh experience, which not only helped me gain further insight on how to understand better from different perspectives in an argument. I have also learnt to step out of my personal comfort zone and interact with more people!

 

Q: What is an example of you applying what you learned in the Conference in real life?

The skill of learning to think from multiple perspectives is an extremely useful expertise that can help in many aspects of real life. In daily encounters, you will easily be able to help people who are in conflict and help out in relationships. Also, when doing projects or research, you will be able to think from multiple perspectives and find the best possible solution or method to solve the problem. Most importantly, conflict-resolution is the best skill to take away from the Conference. However good some relationships may be, it is important to note that being able to guide those in conflict to see a resolution is like helping them see the light at the end of a tunnel, but without the mediator would be for them to wander around aimlessly in the dark. As such, being able to resolve conflicts is the most important real-life application to take away from the Conference!

 

Q: If you could give one piece of advice to the incoming participants of the Peacemakers Conference 2019, what would you tell them?

Be yourself and make as many friends as possible! Do not be afraid to ask questions when you have doubts, and support other students too!

 


Like what you see here? Sign up for the Peacemakers Conference 2019 today!

For more pictures and videos of the Peacemakers Conference 2018, please visit the Peacemakers Facebook Page.

As Singapore’s leading peer mediation experts, Peacemakers has an extensive track record of managing and delivering conflict resolution training for youth at both local and international levels. If you would like to train your youth to better manage conflict, let us know how we can help via email at mediate@peacemakers.sg.

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Peace Talks – Jayden Heng

In our interview series, entitled “Peace Talks”, we speak to peacemakers with different backgrounds and life stories, and ask them to share their thoughts and reflections. 

This edition of “Peace Talks” features Jayden Heng from Anglo-Chinese School (Barker Road):

 

Q: How was your overall experience at the Peacemakers Conference 2018?

My overall experience at the Peacemakers Conference 2018 was a very positive one. I came in unfamiliar to the concept of Mediation and honestly did not expect to learn much from the Conference. On the contrary, I have gained much invaluable insight and knowledge on conflict management and resolution, and I am immensely grateful to have had such an opportunity to be a part of the Peacemakers Conference 2018. As testament to the success of the Peacemakers Conference, my team and I were greatly inspired and excited to share our newly acquired skills to train the student leaders of ACS (Barker) in the area of Conflict Management and Resolution. I would highly recommend everyone to go for a Peacemakers Conference should they ever get the opportunity to participate.

 

Q: What was the most unforgettable part of the Conference for you?

For me, the most memorable part of the Conference would definitely be the mock mediation sessions, where participants would roleplay the position of either a Mediator or a disputing party. The practical hands-on exposure to mediation helped make the learning very engaging and enjoyable yet meaningful and authentic.

 

Q: What is an example of you applying what you learned in the Conference in real life?

One personal example was my endeavour to mediate a very fiery dispute between two of my very close friends. I learned that resolution cannot be forced and that it takes a lot of time, communication and willingness to understand one another for a successful mediation session. Given the sometimes raw uncontrolled emotions, unfiltered trash talk, endless accusations and persistent personal attacks exchanged between disputing parties, mediation can be a very treacherous journey yet rewarding one. One of the many valuable lessons I learned from PMC is that conflict resolution is not about pointing fingers or finding fault with the opposing parties’ actions, but more about everyone coming and working together to solve the conflict at hand. I’ll never forget this key takeaway from the conference – Mediation is not about “You Vs. Me” but rather “Us Vs. the Problem”.

 

Q: If you could give one piece of advice to the incoming participants of the Peacemakers Conference 2019, what would you tell them?

Be Open, be Eager and have Fun. I truly believe that everyone should come in with an open heart, mind and a teachable spirit. Strive for eagar participation in every activity as it will not only benefit the individual but also contribute to the learning experience of everyone else. Most importantly, have fun and don’t be afraid to make mistakes because it’s all part of the learning. Happy Mediating! 😀

 


Like what you see here? Sign up for the Peacemakers Conference 2019 today!

For more pictures and videos of the Peacemakers Conference 2018, please visit the Peacemakers Facebook Page.

As Singapore’s leading peer mediation experts, Peacemakers has an extensive track record of managing and delivering conflict resolution training for youth at both local and international levels. If you would like to train your youth to better manage conflict, let us know how we can help via email at mediate@peacemakers.sg.

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Peace Talks – Xu Meiting

In our interview series, entitled “Peace Talks”, we speak to peacemakers with different backgrounds and life stories, and ask them to share their thoughts and reflections. 

This edition of “Peace Talks” features Xu Meiting from Raffles Girls’ School:

 

Q: How was your overall experience at the Peacemakers Conference 2018?

It was an enriching and fulfilling experience. I have gained knowledge and skills that would otherwise be impossible if it were in a classroom setting. The trainers were amiable and understanding during the training sessions and were extremely patient with us when we were unsure of certain protocols. Their enthusiasm and passion greatly influenced me as I spent the few days with them.

 

Q: What was the most unforgettable part of the Conference for you?

The most unforgettable part of the Conference would be during the mock mediation rounds. All the participants took turns to role-play mediators and parties who were in conflict. This was when we applied what we have learned beforehand and observe the running of a complete mock mediation session. During these rounds, I had the opportunity to interact with other participants from different schools who shared their own opinions and experiences which greatly helped me broaden my perspectives.

 

Q: What is an example of you applying what you learned in the Conference in real life?

It would be between my team members regarding a project. While it was essential to solve the conflict as soon as possible to ensure a smooth progression of the project, we had to keep in mind that an all-out argument between us might not be the best possible way to settle the problem since it could easily escalate into a more complicated situation. The process was definitely not easily, however, when we began to understand another’s difficulties, we became more forgiving and understanding. Sometimes, two simple words can go a long way.

 

Q: If you could give one piece of advice to the incoming participants of the Peacemakers Conference 2019, what would you tell them?

Enter with open minds and hearts and be willing to learn from others! Don’t be afraid to approach the trainers for clarifications (or if you just want to have a quick chat with them) because they are always friendly and helpful! And of course, enjoy yourself and learn as much as possible.

 


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As Singapore’s leading peer mediation experts, Peacemakers has an extensive track record of managing and delivering conflict resolution training for youth at both local and international levels. If you would like to train your youth to better manage conflict, let us know how we can help via email at mediate@peacemakers.sg.

Kelly Wu

Peace Talks – Kelly Wu

In our interview series, entitled “Peace Talks”, we speak to peacemakers with different backgrounds and life stories, and ask them to share their thoughts and reflections. 

This edition of “Peace Talks” features Kelly Wu from Raffles Girls’ School:

 

Q: How was your overall experience at the Peacemakers Conference 2018?

My experience was very enriching and enjoyable! Mediation is something that we come across very often, but most of us are not aware of the proper techniques to make the process smoother and more meaningful. The Conference was definitely an eye-opener as I got to learn so much more about how to mediate an issue effectively. I also got to make new friends from my school and other schools 😀

 

Q: What was the most unforgettable part of the Conference for you?

The most unforgettable part would be acting as a party during the mediation rounds. It was very memorable as all of us had to immerse ourselves in the role, and the conversations often became extremely interesting and exciting!

 

Q: What is an example of you applying what you learned in the Conference in real life?

Since the Conference, I have not been a mediator of an issue, but there were many instances when I had to apply the skills of understanding various perspectives and being a good listener. For example, when participating in group discussions, I try to maintain an open mind and consider everyone’s opinions, even if I feel otherwise. I also try to practise more body language like leaning forward to show the person that I am listening to them. This is a small example, but these skills that I’ve learnt through the Conference really helped me in group settings!

 

Q: If you could give one piece of advice to the incoming participants of the Peacemakers Conference 2019, what would you tell them?

Don’t be afraid to try! It is perfectly fine to make mistakes, always try to step out of your comfort zone to make the most out of your experience 🙂

 


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As Singapore’s leading peer mediation experts, Peacemakers has an extensive track record of managing and delivering conflict resolution training for youth at both local and international levels. If you would like to train your youth to better manage conflict, let us know how we can help via email at mediate@peacemakers.sg.

Samantha Ha

Peace Talks – Samantha Ha

In our interview series, entitled “Peace Talks”, we speak to peacemakers with different backgrounds and life stories, and ask them to share their thoughts and reflections. 

This edition of “Peace Talks” features Samantha Ha from Kent Ridge Secondary School:

 

Q: How was your overall experience at the Peacemakers Conference 2018?

To be honest, when my teacher first asked us to go for the Conference, I was very intrigued but at the same time very confused as to what it was about, so I wasn’t quite sure what to expect from the Conference. However, as the three days passed, I learned quite a fair bit that has helped expand my knowledge on peaceful solutions, not to mention I also made a couple of new friends. It was an enriching experience, and I’m glad that I was able to attend this Conference. I hope the next batch of attendees will enjoy themselves as much as I did!

 

Q: What was the most unforgettable part of the Conference for you?

Throughout the Conference, there were many unforgettable moments. However, what really pulled me in was getting to role play as the mediators and then the people who had conflicts with one another during the competition. I found it really useful as I got to put what I learned about tone, posture and choice of words to use. I enjoyed being able to get the feedback from the judges, and improving on them the next round. Aside from that, I also enjoyed going into the different rooms to see how others mediated and see how I could learn from them.

 

Q: What is an example of you applying what you learned in the Conference in real life?

Although I haven’t had the chance to really put the skills I’ve learnt from the Conference into action, I can say that I’ve become a much more patient and calm person after the Conference as compared to before. Now, when people get frustrated and vent or rant their emotions to me, I feel that I have the tendency to be less annoyed and really more patient and concerned about what they have to say.

 

Q: If you could give one piece of advice to the incoming participants of the Peacemakers Conference 2019, what would you tell them?

I think it’s really important to come into the Conference with an open mind to learn new skills as well as learn from others. Don’t be afraid to try new things, have lots of fun and at the same time, take away some valuable new lessons!

 


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As Singapore’s leading peer mediation experts, Peacemakers has an extensive track record of managing and delivering conflict resolution training for youth at both local and international levels. If you would like to train your youth to better manage conflict, let us know how we can help via email at mediate@peacemakers.sg.

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